A broken heart might feel like a heavy weight is upon you and can be experienced in many different forms.

Maybe you can never find love that reciprocates as much as you give, or your relationship with your close ones isn’t what you envisioned it to be, whether it’s with your siblings, parents, or friends. Perhaps you are struggling with health or career, or you can’t find fulfillment in your accomplishments. One of the most overlooked, universal forms of a broken heart is the unmasking of pre-conditioned expectations.

In a goal-centered world, it is commonly taught that attainment is the final destination to satisfaction and happiness.

For example, we are conditioned to believe that when we enter university, we can work hard, graduate, and then earn a job that fulfills us professionally and monetarily. At first, it may be scary and quite saddening to realize the expectations you’ve been holding on to may be an illusion. Even attaining your expectations successfully can still cause you to feel unfulfilled.

For some, happiness is believed to come in the form of personal success or material acquisitions.

Maybe you finally have enough money to buy the car of your dreams, or whatever else it is you’ve been hoping for. You may be happy for a little while, some others for a little longer, but with time you might find yourself realizing that your car is an object that simply takes you from point A to point B, but does not sustain unconditional happiness.

Once you are able to live in newness and joy, without being tied to conditioned expectations, you can begin to shine the true light of your non-causal heart.

When your illusions fade away, the broken heart becomes a great teacher to show you who you really are.

Ask yourself: am I my job? Am I my education? Am I the lover, the protector, the teacher, the mother, the sister, the friend? Am I my possessions? What matters to me most?

Inquiring into your broken illusions and expectations begins the process of learning how to dance in the theater of life. If we can carefully contemplate what has happened to us, learn from it and have the ability to choose to let go, the hurt can turn into a blessing.

A blessing is realizing that none of your outcomes are tied to the pre-conditioned illusions of life.

What you give to the world comes from the true essence of light that you are. When you are able to share and express that with the world through peace, joy, and satisfaction, your actions are no longer goal-centered, but God-centered.

If your illusions and expectations are broken and your heart feels like it is shattered, take comfort in remembering that you are creating space for your true, unbroken light to reveal itself.

A broken heart is a great blessing. As you shine, no longer will you cling to misinterpretations of who or where you are supposed to be. Instead, feel peace in your heart as you accept what is and keep playing with gratefulness for the wisdom your broken heart has brought you.

May your heart be broken into a million pieces and may your true light illuminate your path wherever you may go.

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Marcela’s Shining Heart!